Supporting Mothers Apart Network

This networking page is currently being developed to provide links to services and organisations relevant to mothers apart and the professionals who work with them. This page will be also be included on the MATCH mothers​ website as a new addition to link service providers and service users nationally and locally. I have been elected by the committee at MATCH Mothers as their Research and Affiliation Officer for this purpose and the charity is very keen to link up with the key stakeholders involved in my research. Networking is a component of the workshop for professionals that was piloted on 17th June 2015.

If you would like your organisation/service/private practice info listed on these networking pages please could you email me with the details to monkl@coventry.ac.uk

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MATCH Mothers

MATCH Mothers is a charity that offers non-judgemental support and information to mothers apart from their children in a wide variety of circumstances. Members include those who are sharing parenting and those who have little or no contact. Members across the UK are able to connect via local support groups, a forum and by annual meetings.

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Counsellors and Psychotherapists

Mothers Apart frequently report having trouble finding psychological therapists who understand their situations and report having to talk to a lot of duds before finding a gem. Mothers apart say the worst things are not being believed, being judged or being criticised. To think that a mother apart who goes through the trauma and grief of losing a child, often after living with abuse and suffering structural abuse, can then experience maltreatment from a therapist – one person who should be able to provide her with a safe, non-judgmental, caring space – is appalling.

As a psychologist, counsellor and psychotherapist myself, this concerns me. I have heard all sorts of terrible stories and have some of my own too. There’s some really bad practice by psychiatrists (particularly oldschool, misogynistic, patronising men), psychologists (especially those who are overly invested in supplying diagnoses of personality disorders for reports requested by social services), and therapists (those therapists who find it impossible to put themselves in someone else’s shoes perhaps because of living very privileged and sheltered lives maybe?). Thankfully, there are some great psychological therapists also but for mothers apart it is best to find one by recommendation.

This is why I am keen to compile a list of practitioners who can be trusted by mothers apart here on the Supporting Mothers Apart Network. Every practitioner on this list has been endorsed by a MATCH Mother apart from her children as having been helpful and comes highly recommended to other mums apart.


Sarah Hart is a counsellor and long-term supporter of MATCH Mothers. Sarah offers telephone counselling to mothers apart anywhere in the country. Sarah has written a wonderful book for mothers apart and the practitioners who work with them called Mothers Apart.

Telephone: 01707 870837

Email: sarah@sarahhart.co.uk

Sarah is on Twitter @TherapyViaPhone


Sue Griffin is a hypnotist, therapist and coach.

Sue’s hypnotherapy is endorsed by a MATCH Mother as being successful for confidence in speaking in public and professional networking. Becoming separated from a child has a profound affect on a woman’s confidence when her main role and identity as a mother is lost or damaged. Sue comes highly recommended for working ethically and empathically with mothers apart.

Sue Griffin 07429 749936

Email

Sue is on Twitter @TalkTherapies


Therapists will be added to the list as they are recommended to me.


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Please find below a range of organisations, services and resources useful to mothers apart and those who work with them.

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Wikivorce

Wikivorce is a volunteer run social enterprise, our mission is to help people who are going through a serious relationship breakup. Each year we provide free advice and support to over 50,000 people – which means we help people in 1 out of every 3 divorces in the UK.  Wikivorce is the largest online divorce support community in the world with over 130,000 registered members.  The site provides a wide range of free support including:
 
www.wikivorce.com  Helpline (9am-11pm) 01202 805020 or 0800 44668844 (free from a landline)  Ruth@Wikivorce.com

Ruth and Nick Langford have also produced a new book: The Family Law A to Z: A reference book for litigants & students  This is very comprehensive – with around 600 definitions detailed in it, inc Scots family law terminology. It’s avaible on as a download/kindle book – means that people can have it on their phones/tablets and have very easy access to the definitions – even while on the move. It’s aimed mainly at Litigants in Person, but is also very useful for McKenzie Friends and those working with separated parents or in advisory roles. http://www.amazon.co.uk/Family-Law-reference-litigants-students-ebook/dp/B00Q1EPKCM/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1429694851&sr=8-3&keywords=ruth+langford

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The Freedom Programme is for any woman who wishes to learn more about the reality of domestic violence and abuse.

Christine Ashton, who runs the IDACNW centre in Leigh, reports that as a result of attending the Freedom Programme at the WAVE DV Centre, “12 out of 16 women had their children returned from care”. How amazing is that! Read the reported statistics here.
Find out how the Freedom Programme can help when mothers are at risk of becoming separated from their children due to domestic abuse.
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WomenCentre Kirklees and Calderdale

WomenCentre in Kirklees has been running a project for mothers living apart from their children within their women-centred service. The Project has produced the book: ‘In Our Hearts: Stories and wisdom of mothers living apart from their children’. This is a wonderful resource that any mother apart can identify with and a fantastic tool for anyone working with families whose children are not living with them or at risk of separation. Siobhan Beckwith, who runs the Project, also produces a monthly newsletter that goes out to over 400 mothers in the Huddersfield area.

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Maypole Women

Maypole Women is a charity that helps women leave conflicted and abusive relationships safely, and supports mothers to provide a safe and nurturing environment for their children after separation and divorce. The Charity raises awareness of the issues women face through separation and divorce and campaigns for safe and fair divorce law for women and children in the UK. Maypole Women really is a mine of information about all sorts of important subjects such as coercive control with excellent resources such as free checklists and research reports.

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Rights of Women

Rights of Women works to attain justice and equality by informing, educating and empowering women on their legal rights.
Address: Rights of Women, 52-54 Featherstone Street, London, EC1Y 8RT.
Administration: 020 7251 6575
Textphone: 020 7490 2562
Email: info@row.org.uk
Website: http://www.rightsofwomen.org.uk/

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Surviving Safeguarding

Surviving Safeguarding is a terrifically helpful blog by a mother who has successfully navigated her way through child protection proceedings and writes to help others do the same. I can highly recommend her post of 28th May – 10 Golden Rules to Survive Safeguarding. Many of these suggestions are recommendations that I personally make to clients myself and are conclusions that I have come to through personal and professional experience and through my research. This blog is well written and very accessible and I urge you to read it if you are a parent going through child protection proceedings.

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Family Rights Group

Family Rights Group are a charity working with parents in England and Wales whose children are in need, at risk or are in the care system and with members of the wider family who are raising children unable to remain at home.

FRG can advise parents, grandparents, other relatives and friends about their rights and options when social workers or courts make decisions about their children’s welfare.

FRG have an advice line on:0808 801 0366 and run discussion boards

FRG have an excellent Domestic Violence Advice Section

Family Rights Group are on Twitter @FamilyRightsGp

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The confidential 24 hour national domestic violence freephone helpline is run in partnership by Refuge and Women’s Aid. The helpline provides support, information and a listening ear to women experiencing (or who have experiences) domestic abuse and to those seeking help on a woman’s behalf and, if appropriate, refer callers on to refuges and other sources of help and information.

The 24-hour free phone number is: 0808 2000 247

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BAWSO

BAWSO provide generic and specialist services for minority ethnic communities, including the provision of temporary accommodation in Wales for those suffering from domestic abuse and all forms of violence; including Female Genital Mutilation, Forced Marriage, Honour Based Violence and Human Trafficking.
Address: 9 Cathedral Road, Cardiff, CF11 9HA
Helpline: 0800 731 8147
Email: Info@bawso.org.uk
Website: http://www.bawso.org.uk/

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Broken Rainbow

Broken Rainbow provides assistance to lesbians, gay men, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people in Britain who are affected by homophobic, transphobic and same sex domestic violence.
Address: PO Box 68947, London, E1W 9JJ
Broken Rainbow Freephone Number: 0800 999 5428
Helpline Number: 0300 999 5428
Email: help@brokenrainbow.org.uk
Website: http://www.brokenrainbow.org.uk/home

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Safelives previously called CAADA (Co-ordinated Action Against Domestic Abuse)

CAADA is working to create a consistent, professional and effective response for all victims of domestic violence in particular those at high risk. They deliver accredited training for IDVAs and MARACs nationally and have developed accredited IDVA standards for IDVA services. They offer ongoing support for those they have trained. Address: 3rd Floor, Maxet House, 28 Baldwin Street, Bristol, BS1 1NG
Tel: 0117 3178750
Email: queries@caada.org.uk
Website: http://www.caada.org.uk/index.html

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ChildLine

ChildLine is the free 24-hour helpline for children and young people in the UK about any problem, day or night.
Tel: 0800 1111
Website: http://www.childline.org.uk/Pages/Home.aspx

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Deaf Hope

Deaf Hope is the only sign-language based service designed to help deaf women and children who suffer domestic violence.
Address for SignHealth: 5 Baring Road, Beaconsfield, Buckinghamshire, HP9 2NB
Text 07970 350366
Voice/minicom 020 8772 3241
Email deafhope@signhealth.org.uk
Website: http://www.signhealth.org.uk/deafhope/

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Eaves

Eaves work to expose and address the overlapping issues of domestic abuse, sexual violence, and exploitation of women in the UK.
Eaves Poppy Project was set up in 2003 to provide high-quality support, advocacy and accommodation to trafficked women (women brought into England or Wales to be exploited in some way). This could include but is not limited to sexual exploitation, labour exploitation, forced illicit activities and organ harvesting.
Address: Unit CC01 Canterbury Court, Kennington Business Park, 1-3 Brixton Road, London, SW9 6DE.
Tel: 020 7735 2062
Email: post@eavesforwomen.org.uk
Website: http://www.eavesforwomen.org.uk/

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The Everyman Project

The Everyman Project aims to help men to change their angry, violent or abusive behaviour with respect and dignity for every man, every woman and every child.
Address: Everyman Project, 1A Waterlow Rd, London, N19 5NJ
Advice line: 0207 263 8884
Email: everymanproject@btopenworld.com
Website: http://www.everymanproject.co.uk/

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Get Connected

Get Connected is the UK’s free, confidential helpline for young people under 25 who need help and don’t know where to turn.
Address: PO BOX 7777, London W1A 5PD
Office Phone: 020 7009 2500
Helpline: 0808 808 4994
Text: 80849
Office email: admin@getconnected.org.uk
Website: http://www.getconnected.org.uk/

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The Hideout

Website to help children and young people understand domestic abuse, and how to take positive action.
Website: http://www.thehideout.org.uk/default.aspa

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IMKAAN

Imkaan is a black feminist organisation dedicated to addressing violenceagainst women and girls. lmkaan supports a network of specialist women’s services run by and for black and minority ethnic women.
Address: Tindlemanor, 52 – 54 Featherstone Street, London EC1Y 8RT
Tel: 020 7842 8525
Email: info@imkaan.org.uk
Website: http://imkaan.org.uk/

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Jewish Women’s Aid

Jewish Women’s Aid is the only specialist organisation in the UK supporting Jewish women affected by domestic violence.
Address: PO Box 2670, London, N12 9ZE
Helpline: 0808 801 0500
Website: http://jwa.org.uk/

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LGBT Domestic Abuse Forum

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender domestic abuse forum (LGBT DAF) is a network providing individuals and organisations with support to develop, implement and improve service for LGBT people who have experienced domestic abuse.
Address: LGBT DAF, Stonewall Housing, 2a Leroy House, 436 Essex Road, London N1 3QP
Tel: 0207 3456316
Email: info@lgbtdaf.org
Website: http://www.lgbtdaf.org/

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Muslim Youth Helpline

MYH is a charity that provides free and confidential faith and culturally sensitive support services targeted at vulnerable young people in the UK.
Address: MYH FREEPOST RLZS-XJGE-JLBH
Helpline: 0808 808 2008
Office telephone: 0207 435 8171
Email: help@myh.org.uk
Office email: info@myh.org.uk
Website: http://www.myh.org.uk/

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Muslim Women’s Network UK

The Muslim Women’s Network (MWN-UK) is an independent national network of individual Muslim women and Muslim women’s organisations across the UK.
Address: The Warehouse, 54-57 Allison Street, Digbeth, Birmingham, B5 5TH
Tel: 0121 236 9000
Email : contact@mwnuk.co.uk
Website: http://www.mwnuk.co.uk/

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NSPCC National Child Protection Helpline

Helpline for people concerned about a child at risk of abuse, including children themselves. Offers counselling, information and advice about the care of children, legal issues, sexual, physical or emotional abuse, neglect etc. The helpline is a free and confidential service that is open 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
Tel: 0808 800 5000
Email: help@nspcc.org.uk
Website: http://www.nspcc.org.uk/

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National Association of Gypsy Women

Support group for Gypsy women and travellers experiencing domestic violence. Meadow View, Goldsmith Drive, Rayleigh, Essex SS6 9R5
Tel: 01268 782 792

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National Stalking Helpline

The National Stalking Helpline provides guidance and information to anybody who is currently or has previously been affected by harassment or stalking.
Email: advice@stalkinghelpline.org
Helpline: 0808 802 0300
Website: http://www.stalkinghelpline.org/

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National Youth Advocacy Service

NYAS is a UK charity providing socio-legal services that offer information, advice, advocacy and legal representation to children, young people and vulnerable adults through a network of dedicated paid workers and volunteers throughout England and Wales.
Address: NYAS, Egerton House, Tower Road, Birkenhead, Wirral, CH41 1FN
Telephone: 0151 649 8700
Email: info@nyas.net
Helpline: 0808 808 1001
Email: help@nyas.net
Website: https://www.nyas.net/

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Paladin

Paladin provide advice and support to high risk victims of stalking, raise awareness of dangers and risks of stalking, provide training to professionals, scrutinise the new stalking laws, campaign on behalf of victims and develop a victim’s network of support.
Address: PO Box 64640, London, SW8 9DJ
Tel: 0207 840 8960
Email: info@paladinservice.co.uk
Website: http://paladinservice.co.uk/

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Rape Crisis

Rape Crisis England & Wales is a national charity and the umbrella body for their network of independent member Rape Crisis organisations.
Address: Rape Crisis England & Wales, BCM Box 4444, London, WC1N 3XX
Freephone helpline: 0808 802 9999
Email: rcewinfo@rapecrisis.org.uk
Website: http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/

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Refuge

Refuge is a national charity for women and children experiencing domestic violence and other forms of violence and abuse, including sexual violence, trafficking, FGM, ‘honour’-based violence, forced marriage, stalking and prostitution. Refuge runs a national network of specialist services, including emergency refuge accommodation; community-based outreach services; culturally specific services.
Address: 4th Floor, International House, 1 St Katharine’s Way, London E1W 1UN
Tel: 020 7395 7700
National Domestic Violence Helpline: 0808 2000 247
Email: info@refuge.org.uk
Website: www.refuge.org.uk

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Shelter

Shelter help millions of people every year struggling with bad housing or homelessness – and campaign to prevent it in the first place.
Address: Shelter Head Office, 88 Old Street, London, EC1V 9HU
Main Switchboard 0344 515 2000
Helpline on 0808 800 4444
Email: info@shelter.org.uk
Website: http://england.shelter.org.uk/

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Southall Black Sisters

Southall Black Sisters provide a range of advice and support services to enable black and minority women to gain the knowledge and confidence they need to assert their human rights. They provide general and specialist advice on gender-related issues such as domestic violence, sexual violence, forced marriage, honour killings and their intersection with the criminal justice, immigration and asylum systems, health, welfare rights, homelessness and poverty.
Address: Southall Black Sisters, 21 Avenue Road, Southall, Middlesex, UB1 3BL
Helpline: 0208 571 0800
General Enquiries: 0208 571 9595
Website: http://www.southallblacksisters.org.uk/

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Stay Safe East

Stay Safe East works to tackle violence and abuse against disabled and deaf individuals including: domestic violence by partners, family members, or by paid or unpaid carers, disability and other hate crime, bullying, anti-social behaviour and harassment, sexual violence, financial abuse and human rights abuses in residential care or supported housing.
Address: 90 Crownfield Road, London, E15 2BG
Tel: 0208 519 7241
Email: advocacy@staysafe-east.org.uk
Website: http://www.staysafe-east.org.uk/

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Stonewall

Stonewall works to achieve equality and justice for lesbians, gay men and bisexual people.
Address: Tower Building, York Road, London, SE1 7NX
Info Line: 0800 050 20 20
Office (admin): 020 7593 1850
Email: info@stonewall.org.uk
Website: http://www.stonewall.org.uk/

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Victim Support

Victim Support is the independent national charity that helps people to cope with the effects of crime. It provides free and confidential support and information to help victims deal with their experiences.
Victim Support line: 0845 30 30 900
Email: supportline@victimsupport.org.uk

Website: https://www.victimsupport.org.uk/

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Women’s Aid

Women’s Aid is a key national charity working in England to end domestic violence of women and children. It supports a network of over 300 domestic and sexual violence services across the UK.
Address: PO Box Bristol 391, BS99 7WS
Tel: 0117 944 4411
Fax: 0117 924 1703
National Domestic Violence Helpline: 0808 2000 247
Email: info@womensaid.org.uk;helpline@womensaid.org.uk
Website: http://www.womensaid.org.uk/

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Welsh Women’s Aid

Welsh Women’s Aid is the national umbrella organisation representing local Women’s Aid Groups situated throughout Wales. Member groups provide direct services for women and children who have experienced or are experiencing domestic abuse.
Address: Welsh Womens Aid, Pendragon House, Caxton Place, Pentwyn, Cardiff, CF23 8XE
Tel: 02920 541 551
Wales Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 801 0800
Website: www.welshwomensaid.org

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Youth Access

Youth Access is the largest provider of young people’s advice and counselling services in the UK.
Address: Youth Access, 1-2 Taylors Yard, 67 Alderbrook Road, London, SW12 8AD
Tel: 020 8772 9900 (from 9.30 to 1, and 2 to 5.30)
Email: admin@youthaccess.org.uk
Website: http://www.youthaccess.org.uk/

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CPS Employees Guide on VAWG issues:

http://www.cps.gov.uk/publications/docs/VAW_employees_guide.pdf

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